How do make sure my girl would be called by her formal first name, not a nickname?

For example, I want to name a girl Jacqueline and another Victoria, but I don't like the nicknames Jackie or Vicky.


How do I make sure people would call them by their actual names?

How do make sure my girl would be called by her formal first name, not a nickname?
Jacqueline Kennedy had the same issue with her son John. She didn't want him called Jack like his father and she didn't like Johnny. For those old enough to remember, she called him John-John to reinforce the name John to the press. As he got older, the press dropped the childish John-John in favor of John.





Doubling up on your girls' names would be annoying but, as a parent, you DO set the tone. An earlier posting suggested always introducing the girls by their full names. That's an excellent start.





Teaching your children the » gentle « art of correction will also help. Screaming at someone for mispronouncing or misusing a name is counterproductive. However, a parent or child can always say, "I'm sorry (or excuse me) but my name is ..."





When the children are enrolled in school, simply request (NO demands!) that the teacher use the child's full name without nns. It won't take long before you'll rarely ever hear a nn.





Good luck to you and congratulations on your name choices.
Reply:The only way is to actually name them Jackie or Vicky. There is no way you can force people to use the full name and people, especially kids, will always find a way to shorten a longer name, and sometimes a short one. You might be able to get family and friends to call them by their full name but not everyone will. And also, as they got older they might prefer to be called Jackie or Vickie so you still lose.
Reply:Well, you could have your daughters introduce themselves as, "Hi! I'm Jacqueline." or, "Hi! I'm Victoria." People will be less likely to use a nickname if they see that the child calls themselves by the full name.





Next, once she gets in school, she can just say when she's introducing herself, "I'd prefer to be called by my full first name, and not a nickname. Thank you!" Until then, you can introduce them to others by their full name, and perhaps mention that you'd like them to not have a nickname.





Another possibility is this: Whenever you don't refer to them as Jacqueline or Victoria, call them a nickname that's name-indiscriminate; such as Honey, Sweetie, Baby, or something like that. Once "outsiders" enter the picture, they might feel unsure, and then just refer to them by their full name, because of their uncertainty.





Good luck!


~Emily-Maria





PS: When I was younger in school, I'd say as I introduced myself, "I'd prefer to be called Em." Your daughters could do the same, just in reverse :)
Reply:I understand exactly what you mean, because I love the name Giselle, but I hate the nickname Gigi. You as the parents have to emphasize that you want the child to be called by their full first name, which means every time a stranger, family member or friends attempts to call them by a nickname, correct them and tell them you would appreciate if they call the child by their proper name, and teach the child to do the same thing.
Reply:Correct the problem before it becomes one. For instance, when someone refers to your child as Jackie or Vicky, say, "Thanks, but we do call her Jacqueline/Victoria."





My name is Stephanie, and people always try to call me Steph. I simply correct them by saying, "Stephanie, please." You child will learn to do the same. It throws people for a second, as they didn't mean to offend or anything by calling me Steph (and they didn't), but then they smile, nod, and change the subject.
Reply:There are no guarentees, but the best way to handle the situation is to "power phrase" to people whom call her by a nickname. For an example when somebody is talking to you about your child and uses a nickname when you reply you use a sentence stating her full name e.g. "Yes Victoria, she .................".However you may find your daughter prefers her nickname, and over time you may be fighting a lossing battle.
Reply:Well, one way is to only let them have posh friends...





Nicknames are a simple fact of life, and people will play hell with grammar to give you one regardless of how short your name already is.





The names Victoria and Jacqueline are easily the biggest targets for re-styling, simply because of their 'Royal' nature. They sound 'posh'. Kids don't like 'posh'.





I know plenty of girls named Victoria and ALL of them go by Vicky in both speech and writing. It's not a bad thing, and Vicky isn't a bad name.





If you want same suggestions of names that are barely ever 'dolled up' then I will suggest a few nice ones:





Jade


Sarah


Chloe


Colette


Clare / Claire


Anne





And a regional one:





Niamh (Irish, pronounced Neeve)
Reply:Trust me. Those girls will called Jackie %26amp; Vicky forever more. I dont like nicknames either. I have a son called Jody. I love the unusualness of it. And that it is saved from the horrible name of Joe by the Dee part.





But now..guess what...he has started high school. And I heard the other day one of his friends calling him.'Hey Joe...Joe!!"





What can you do.? I love the name Michael, but not Mike. And for girls, Elisabeth, but I wouldnt dare... I absolutely hate the name Liz.





My name is Florence, and I will not tolerate being called Flo but what a pain to have to correct people.





Nicknames are always going to happen. Too bad though.
Reply:No matter what you name your daughter, people will always find a nickname. Whether the nickname is related to her actual name or not. But you can always try...when she's little, and can't speak for herself, tell people that you prefer that they call her by her full name. As she gets older, it's really up to her!
Reply:Well I don't really know how to answer your question but I know that no matter what your name is you will still have a nickname It's really hard to have a name that won't have a nickname.





Example:


Lucy= LuLu, I love Lucy, Lucy Juicy, and a lot more


Jackie=Jack, Jack o Lantern, Jackie Wakie


Kevin= Kevin Seen Eleven





Well I won't give you all the details but still hope you understand my answer
Reply:u cant because when the child gets older she will decide what she wants to be called and more than likely it will be jackie and vickie besides ppl like to say names that arent a mouthful thats why most long names are shortened into something easier to say so leave it alone you can call em what you want but you cant make someone else do something
Reply:When you introduce them, introduce them as Jaqueline and Victoria. Also, if you call your girls their full names from birth, it will just stick with them.





I also dislike the nickname Vicky. If you think it is inevitable that they will get called nicknames, try Tori.
Reply:You can't.





It's not your name. It's your daughter's. She'll decide what people call her once she gets past the age of about four.





And, for goodness sake, you want your child to be called Jacqueline and nobody's allowed to shorten it? Are you deliberately trying to make her life hell?
Reply:You can't. You can try to correct them when they're infants and small children, but people, especially in laws and parents, will call the baby as they wish.
Reply:I don't think you can, because as your daughter gets older, she will choose what she would like to be called.





The best you can do is call her by this name at home, and reinforce why she should see it as a positive name.
Reply:When someone tried to nick name my children I would simply say "his name is Israel ....or Isaiah". I didn't name them Ize or Izzy...it irritates me but now all my family know what to call them. Now that they speak well they just tell the person, "that's not my name, my name is ....".
Reply:The parents must call her that, she has to write her name at school like that, sign her up for clubs and such with that name.


But it might not be that other people use a nick name for her, she might not like the name.
Reply:well first of all, you have to call them by their actual names, and when you introduce them to new people, introduce them by their full names


for example: "Hi, these are my daughters Jacqueline and Victoria."
Reply:You call them by their proper names, and if people nickname them, they are nicknamed. Your daughters would rather have a name they prefer than one they are truly stuck with.
Reply:it's more likely that they would WANT to be called Jackie or Vicky, because kids don't like old fashioned names and they want something more cool
Reply:i guess theres no way to stop it at school.


if you hear people calling them nicknames you can correct them and hopefully they will stop.
Reply:Jacqueline is going to be difficult!!





Victoria - I have two friends with this name and neither was shortened!! But that's cause there mothers the whole time we were growing up corrected people!!!





Good luck
Reply:You can ask people to call her by her first name.

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